Toni Jackson

Grounding: What To Do When You Feel Unstable

You know those moments when you feel like you’ve lost your footing? When you feel spacey, wobbly, scatty and unclear? It can happen when we are stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, or too far out of our comfort zone. Knowing how to ground ourselves in such situations, can make a huge difference to how we feel.

In this article, we look at:

  • What is grounding?
  • How grounding helps.
  • How to ground yourself to feel calmer.
  • Further grounding resources.
What is Grounding?

To ground ourselves is to do any activity that makes us feel solid, centred, balanced, contained or connected to ourselves – particularly to our body. It literally means, connecting to the earth.
I think of it as a ‘coming home’ to ourselves. It is a way to anchor ourselves down when we feel like we’re disconnecting. Grounding brings us back into our personal power.

When we ground ourselves, we are directing our attention and our energy downward, toward our bodies and the earth. In comparison, when we feel ungrounded, or flighty, our energy and attention is focused upward, away from the ground and our bodies. In this case, we are either too much in our heads, or have abandoned ourselves altogether – we have dissociated.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapist Pat Ogden, describes grounding as “a felt sense of connection to the ground” and as “the capacity to direct somatic energy toward the ground.” Read More

Books To Help You Befriend Your Body

I recently contributed to an article on 20 Powerful Books To Help You Befriend Your Body, edited by Soul-Centred Psychotherapist and Eating Psychology Specialist Jodie Gale.  The article is a wonderful resource of books reviewed by therapists who work with the mind-body connection.

Jodie says, “Increasingly, many of us feel a sense of alienation, disconnection, a lack of safety, and insecurity within our bodies. At the core, this sense of dis-ease can often be the result of early childhood attachment and interpersonal ruptures, emotional neglect and/or trauma.”

In their own, unique ways, these books offer gentle paths for reconnecting with our bodily selves.  Helping us to feel grounded and centred within ourselves.  To read about all 20 books, click here.

Image credit: Jodie Gale

About Toni Jackson

I am a psychotherapist, counsellor and creative therapist, in Perth, Fremantle and Mundaring, Western Australia. I specialise in working with women around the issues of self-worth, anxiety, body image and personal power. I am a certified Gestalt Therapist, with a BA Psychology and a Grad. Dip. Women’s Studies. I have a strong interest in trauma therapy and use both body awareness and art therapy in my work.
If you would like to book an appointment, please contact Toni Jackson.
Phone: 0439 995 302

Main photo credit: CJS*64 via / CC BY-ND

Feeling Overwhelmed? Here’s What To Do

When we feel overwhelmed, even small things can seem like big things.  Someone asks for a favour, you can’t find your keys or you get stuck in a traffic jam and it feels like too much to handle.  When we are already feeling stressed or under pressure, we have a tendency to get upset, frustrated or angry a lot easier than usual.  We’ve reached our limit and don’t have the capacity to take on any more.  Following are some simple and effective ways to feel less overwhelmed, so that we can more easily manage what life throws at us.


When we feel overwhelmed, it is usually because things are not going the way we want them to and/or there is more going on than we feel we can cope with.  We may be overwhelmed by grief or trauma, or by study and work commitments, our health, relationships, family, being busy, other people’s expectations of us, or feeling just not good enough.

When we are overwhelmed, we have gone into flight, fight or freeze response.  Our sympathetic nervous system has gone into overdrive.  We feel anxious, stressed and overloaded.

It can feel like the answer to overwhelm is to push through, or think our way out.  It’s not.  It may seem counterproductive, but the answer to overwhelm is to stop. Read More