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Healthy Boundaries Are Your Super Power

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Difficulties with boundaries is something I encounter a lot with the people who come to see me for counselling in Fremantle, Mundaring and online. If we grew up in a home where healthy boundaries were not role modelled for us, we may have picked up some less-than-empowering beliefs about how to set healthy, adaptive boundaries. This article will look at: • What is a boundary? • Types of boundaries • Your body always knows your boundaries • When we override our body signals • Why is it so difficult? • How to have healthy boundaries • Brene Brown on boundaries • Cool boundary experiment

Sitting in her office at the No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency, Mma Ramotswe reflected on how easy it was to find oneself committed to a course of action simply because one lacked the courage to say no. – Alexander McCall…

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10 Ways To Practice Self-Compassion

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Self-Love

What is self-compassion? Dr Kirstin Neff, one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion, explains that it is the same as the feelings of compassion we have for others, only we turn it inward, to ourselves. She says when we…

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